hello to all,i live in north india and was initiall avoiding my tamil brahmin roots but something drove me towards it i want to learn about my roots and culture hope this site would help me do the same.
this initial intro from dattatri sparked off some old memories. who knows where this thread will end.
i grew up in madras, en route to the great north. all my relatives would spend summer in kerala and at that time the only way to go to north was to come to madras, stay overnight and proceed on.
by north, it could be any place north of vindhyas - bombay, delhi, calcutta etc.
one consistent impression, i remember, is that all my north indian domiciled relatives felt superior to us southern living country bumpkins.
this is a genralization and perhaps flawed, as i am looking at it through the distant mirror of time.
but the fact remained that intermittently or among themselves they would speak hindi or variations of it. they would quote ghazals. they would actually understand the lyrics of what rafi or latha sang, unlike us, who did not know even how to identify a song.
they always had chapatthis with their meals, with rice playing a second fiddle. new words like sabzi, dhal, aaloo, press wala etc would be bandied about the house, much to the bewilderment of folks like us who used to call the same, upperi, paruppu, urulai or isthiri aaLu.
the north was where the jobs were, and had it not been for an accident of history, yours truly would have been living in an hindi speaking land.
also, these folks, spoke loud when they came to madras.
what was interesting, was the complete reversal of behaviour, when on odd occassions, we returned their visits. they would never speak loud in the streets (the northies had no such retiscence), would talk in hindi, whisper in tamil and above all did not quite mingle with the dhalwallahs, as what they used to boast back home.
when i first saw the movie padosan, i was shocked. not only did we have no kudumis in my family, but nobody had such an awful tamil accent. and all my relatives in the north considered themselves more modern and sophisticated than us.
a lot of things did not jive.
which comes back to the initiation of this topic... why would a TB hide his roots while growing up in the north.
ps.. i have some relatives who even northindianised their names: sarma became sharma, kailas became kailash; viswanathan became vishwanath... and so on..