Are you scared to remarry?

[prasad1]

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A divorce is the death of a dream. For those who ended a bad marriage, it’s like escape from Alcatraz! So many are scarred by the experience that they simply cannot even think of jumping back into a second marriage, because they consider marriage a ‘trap’, ‘jail’ and ‘nightmare’. All it actually means is that you have given the ‘evil ex’ the power to control your future. If you don’t like someone, why give them that power over you to shape the rest of your life? When we look around us, we see many that have given marriage a second chance and are successful at it. And then of course there are some ‘bravehearts’ that marry again and again and again! Why do people choose to remarry and not just date? What is it that marriage brings with it that is so alluring, so magnetic? Social respectability (especially for a woman in India) and legal status is certainly an aspect of it, but what else? When you look at a healthy marriage, it’s not devoid of conflict or complacency. But there’s an incredible sense of togetherness, stability, calm, understanding and adjustment because of the nature of that deep commitment. You can’t just pack your bags and leave after a skirmish. You can’t end the marriage as you can a relationship because the romance and passion diminishes. You work at it. You work on your strengths as a ‘husband and wife’ because marriage brings emotional depths and legalities. You are no longer an ‘individual’, you are emotionally and legally bound as a ‘family’. And that’s essentially it! Marriage makes you family — through thick and thin, sick and sin! Why would you want to let a bad past marriage ruin your chance at getting it right and having the ‘family life’, you perhaps fear, but desire deeply?
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[renuka]

Somehow its only those with Indian DNA who are afraid to remarry.

Most other races in other parts of the world are not so much infected with "One bitten Twice Shy" virus that plagues Indians.

If something fails..there is no harm trying and trying again.

Perfection is never really possible..but trying again and again is always possible.

Marriage is like Tapas..you have to work hard to reach your goal..the only difference is in Tapas you dont get sex!

 

[prasad1]

Somehow its only those with Indian DNA who are afraid to remarry.

Most other races in other parts of the world are not so much infected with "One bitten Twice Shy" virus that plagues Indians.

If something fails..there is no harm trying and trying again.

Perfection is never really possible..but trying again and again is always possible.

Marriage is like Tapas..you have to work hard to reach your goal..the only difference is in Tapas you dont get sex!

Are you sure of that?

"Kaushika" seeks to attain the same spiritual power as Vashista, to become his equal, a brahmarishi. He undertakes a fierce penance for one thousand years, after which Brahma names him a Rajarishi, or royal sage.
After another long penance of thousand years, Brahma names him a rishi, thus leaving his royal lineage permanently. And Brahma suggest him to take Bramharshi grade from his guru Vashista only, as he only has the power to call you as Brahmarshi.
At this point, Indra, the king of Swarga attempts to test the tapasvin by sending Menaka, an apsara to seduce him. Kaushik then lives with Menaka for 10 years.

 

[renuka]

Are you sure of that?

"Kaushika" seeks to attain the same spiritual power as Vashista, to become his equal, a brahmarishi. He undertakes a fierce penance for one thousand years, after which Brahma names him a Rajarishi, or royal sage.
After another long penance of thousand years, Brahma names him a rishi, thus leaving his royal lineage permanently. And Brahma suggest him to take Bramharshi grade from his guru Vashista only, as he only has the power to call you as Brahmarshi.
At this point, Indra, the king of Swarga attempts to test the tapasvin by sending Menaka, an apsara to seduce him. Kaushik then lives with Menaka for 10 years.

OMG! Why is Menaka depicted in these paintings looking so plain and homely?LOL

If Menaka really looked like that why the heck did Vishwamitra fall for her and waste his Tapasya?

The artist should have painted Menaka with more sex appeal and not looking like a plain housewife!LOL

 

[Vaagmi]

OMG! Why is Menaka depicted in these paintings looking so plain and homely?LOL

If Menaka really looked like that why the heck did Vishwamitra fall for her and waste his Tapasya?

The artist should have painted Menaka with more sex appeal and not looking like a plain housewife!LOL

Renukaji,

These are paintings by a famous Kerala based painter of yore.

The supremely confident, all knowing, plain but attractive looks of Kerala women can be understood only by those who have been subjected to such an experience by friendship with these women.
They just laugh at the pranks and tantrums that men throw up, the stupidity (asadu vazhithal) with which they try to court women etc.,.
When they have completed their evaluation exercise and have come to the conclusion that the chuha is firmly in the grip, they just go for the kill.

That is Kerala women briefly.

Dont ever make the mistake of taking them lightly looking at their plain looks.

If Kaushika had a real Kerala woman in place of Menaka, we would not have had a second Brahmarshi. LOL.

 

[renuka]

Renukaji,

These are paintings by a famous Kerala based painter of yore.

The supremely confident, all knowing, plain but attractive looks of Kerala women can be understood only by those who have been subjected to such an experience by friendship with these women.
They just laugh at the pranks and tantrums that men throw up, the stupidity (asadu vazhithal) with which they try to court women etc.,.
When they have completed their evaluation exercise and have come to the conclusion that the chuha is firmly in the grip, they just go for the kill.

That is Kerala women briefly.

Dont ever make the mistake of taking them lightly looking at their plain looks.

If Kaushika had a real Kerala woman in place of Menaka, we would not have had a second Brahmarshi. LOL.

Dear Vaagmi Ji,

I know these must be paintings of Raja Ravi Varma.

You have to understand that I DID NOT say anywhere that I find Kerala women plain..all I said is the woman depicted in the painting looked plain like a housewife and not like a seductress.

I guess its you who linked it with Kerala females becos the artist was from Kerala!LOL

Technically I have NOT made any remark depicting Kerala females in bad light.

I am well aware that beautiful women comes from all states of India from Kashmir to Kanyakumari.

I am not aware of any Chuhaa(rodent) trapping techniques and making a kill by any female. I am non violent.

BTW why call a male a rodent? Unless he is looking for some rat hole!LOL

Ok hypothetically if you say that "If Kaushika had a real Kerala woman in place of Menaka, we would not have had a second Brahmarshi"...then what mantra would you be reciting for Sandhya Vandanam if Kaushika had never become a Brahmarishi?LOL


BTW I don't think JUST ONE type of female from a single state in this world is super alluring..every state and country has it beauties..if what you say is right..then why did Kerala born Adi Shankara say.."do not be attracted to the breast and navel region of a female for its just a conglomerate of flesh and blood".

How come Adi S didn't seem attracted to any one of the females you are talking about?

Adi S was warning people that you might fall for breast and navel region but danger awaits you...so better run run!


Piddi jaissa chuhaa
Dum pakda toh nikla kala naag
Naag naag
Bhaag…>>>
Bhaag bhaag

A tiny little mouse,
when caught the tail, turned out to be a black snake,
snake snake...
run run,


I guess there is a Chuhaa in the story after all!LOL

 

[GANESH65]

Somehow its only those with Indian DNA who are afraid to remarry.

Most other races in other parts of the world are not so much infected with "One bitten Twice Shy" virus that plagues

Don't think this statement is justified. Most of Indian news papers carry separate dedicated column for re marriages/divorcees and the column never remains empty. Most of the online matrimonial sites are also filled with ads requesting match for a second marriage. Despite all that unlike in rest of the world, Marriages in India is seen as an institutional bond for a longer association. It is considered as the medium for prosper and development of ones sect/family. And in many cases parents are worried about the future of their children out of a broken marriage which also proves a spoil spot in remarriages. In most western countries marriage is an association of convenience and is broken at the slightest provocation from either of the couple. They also don't consider marriage a must for leading a happy sexual life. Moreover the culture of a family bondness also less prevalent in western life style.

 

[auh]

Ok hypothetically if you say that "If Kaushika had a real Kerala woman in place of Menaka, we would not have had a second Brahmarshi"...then what mantra would you be reciting for Sandhya Vandanam if Kaushika had never become a Brahmarishi?LOL

Perhaps a recipe for a more richer and tastier version of "pradhaman"?