Dear Renuka
Physical union is gross because it caters to the gross needs such as the needs of the body.
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Dear Renuka
Physical union is gross because it caters to the gross needs such as the needs of the body.
Dear Sravna,
Ok..in that case is there such a thing as a Subtle Union without involving the physical body?
Dear Renuka,
Then how do you think it can be a sattva type of husband wife relationship?
Dear Sravna,
As long something is Haram(Forbidden) it is exciting..when it becomes Halal(Sanctioned) the excitement goes out eventually.
So yes..it is possible to have a Sattva Husband and Wife relationship due the reason above.
In a Haram relationship the 3rd person is the Devil...that is why it is so interesting.
Dear Renuka,
I can think of perfect compatibility between the minds of the partners as a subtle union, one complementing the other.
Dear Renuka,
I do not understand. You want to have a sattva relationship because it is exciting?
No No!
I mean to say that Haram is always exciting becos the 3rd person is the Devil but Halal a.k.a Sattva does not have the Devil effect hence loses the excitement.
Raviji,
I agree with your point...Love and respect towards parents should be unequivocal with out any strings attached
What I meant in my post was that with both son and daughter being treated equal by law, the daughter cannot get away from her responsibilities citing flimsy reasons when parents need help the most.
The daughter also has a responsibility to take care of the parents during old age.
Parents do not expect any money from daughters, but daughters expect a constant stream of money from parents ....If son gets something daughter also is supposed to be given the same thing
even after marriage
Then why do daughters shun responsibilities towards parents...How many daughters would have sheltered the parents in old age (unless if parents had just daughter(s))...It becomes the son's responsibility to take care of the parents...Even if daughter's take care of parents will they consider it an obligation or a responsibility unless or otherwise they are the sole heir to the parents?
I'm sorry, I disagree.
From what I've seen, it is daughters who are more responsible and more loving towards their parents in their old age.
Perhaps it's in our culture that sons have to look after their parents, but nowadays this "rule" is fast changing, and in fact I see that it's the daughters who are the first to respond, either monetarily or otherwise, to an aged parent's needs. Most of the aged parents I've seen are equally at home in their son's or daughter's home, ie if they're unable to live by themselves for whatever reason.
From what I've seen, it is daughters who are more responsible and more loving towards their parents in their old age.
Perhaps it's in our culture that sons have to look after their parents, but nowadays this "rule" is fast changing, and in fact I see that it's the daughters who are the first to respond, either monetarily or otherwise, to an aged parent's needs. Most of the aged parents I've seen are equally at home in their son's or daughter's home, ie if they're unable to live by themselves for whatever reason.
Raji Ram
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Even if the daughters don't hesitate to give financial support to parents,
the parents used to feel embarrassed, some years back!
Now see the proud parents in the latest ad:
Nana Naani Homes
Dear Sir,
I have to disagree here..in my life I have never expected any money from my parents when I started earning on my own..before when I was still a student obviously they had to give me money which I spent wisely and did not waste
Money is non existent in my mind when it comes to dealing with my parents.
Anyway in my family my brothers and I never even think of who will get what from parents.
All of us have our own jobs and are happy with what we have.
I stay near my parents becos my brothers stay far and one works in a different state.
I look after them without any problem..so many of my female friends look after parents who stay close by and also look after in laws.
I do not see any problem sheltering parents or in laws.
What is so hard to care for someone?
I don't think all humans are calculative..there is something call compassion and a person need not even be your parent for us to feel or care for them.
Tell me...how important is money?
Money is just a piece of paper which has some value as long it is not defaced..burn it ..it becomes ashes.
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Raji Ram
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Dear Renu,
Some girls are like you. But I know a tambram girl who demanded 25 sovereign gold, some silver vessels, four costly
sarees, furniture for her house from her parents, because she thought that they might 'cheat' her since hers was a love
marriage! In another wedding, the in laws demanded extra gold from the parents on the wedding day and the girl felt
bad then. But, later on she commented that only because of her in laws she could get that extra jewelry! Such is life!! :sad:
LOL!
Out here my mum is mad with me cos I do not want her gold jewellery!
I dislike gold so I told her I am not really keen to inherit it..so now she has given some to my Sister In Law and also kept some for my son's and my nephew's future wife.(she has 2 grandsons)
She keeps telling me that she prays my son and nephew will grow up and marry girls who will appreciate gold.
I told her that I have planned life in such a way that there just few things that I really desire and that is books..so my dad gave me all his collections of religious book ..so I have lots and lots of books at my house.
I prefer books to gold.
Raji Ram
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That is the reason for the burglar to get mad at you!! :rant:
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