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Daksha Kumar
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Hello everyone,
My name is Dakshayini, I am not a Brahmin but my fiancé is, despite me not being a Brahmin our both families agreed and we are getting married in a couple of months, my fiancé's family are very orthodox & they asked me make a few adjustments to my life style, I also have some worries how to adjust to life into a new family in a bit different orthodox culture. I will try to list what I need to do and my concerns.
Firstly how a girl from a non Brahmin back ground find it living in a Brahmin house hold, my fiancé's family are very orthodox and I will be living with them after marriage. What will be the biggest differences for me.
1.Aftermarraige I will only be expected to madisar saree that is 24 hours a day.
I am worried how it will be possible having to wear a saree whole it will be heavy and moving around will be difficult, I would like to know how it feels and how can I make my self comfortable wearing a madisar whole day. I am29 years old and I am more accustomed to modern way of dressing and I will have to give up on that
2.I will have to pierce both sides of nostrils and wear large multi studded mookuthi on both noses.
Firstly I am worried about piercing in the first place because of the pain, also I worried about how will people look at me in this modern age. I think it will be embarrassing to wear Any body with experience please let me know.
3.I will also required wear 7 stone vaira thodu all the time, once again how is to wear vaira thodu all the time will it be heavy and will people look at me differently these days,
My concerns arise from the fact that being bought up in modern upbringing I have lot of concerns of transforming myself into a orthodox lady. I have my profession & going to work completely transformed I wonder how will people look at me at work. Also my I would feel odd when I am with my friends & family
Please be kind to give your opinions on the above
Thanks
My name is Dakshayini, I am not a Brahmin but my fiancé is, despite me not being a Brahmin our both families agreed and we are getting married in a couple of months, my fiancé's family are very orthodox & they asked me make a few adjustments to my life style, I also have some worries how to adjust to life into a new family in a bit different orthodox culture. I will try to list what I need to do and my concerns.
Firstly how a girl from a non Brahmin back ground find it living in a Brahmin house hold, my fiancé's family are very orthodox and I will be living with them after marriage. What will be the biggest differences for me.
1.Aftermarraige I will only be expected to madisar saree that is 24 hours a day.
I am worried how it will be possible having to wear a saree whole it will be heavy and moving around will be difficult, I would like to know how it feels and how can I make my self comfortable wearing a madisar whole day. I am29 years old and I am more accustomed to modern way of dressing and I will have to give up on that
2.I will have to pierce both sides of nostrils and wear large multi studded mookuthi on both noses.
Firstly I am worried about piercing in the first place because of the pain, also I worried about how will people look at me in this modern age. I think it will be embarrassing to wear Any body with experience please let me know.
3.I will also required wear 7 stone vaira thodu all the time, once again how is to wear vaira thodu all the time will it be heavy and will people look at me differently these days,
My concerns arise from the fact that being bought up in modern upbringing I have lot of concerns of transforming myself into a orthodox lady. I have my profession & going to work completely transformed I wonder how will people look at me at work. Also my I would feel odd when I am with my friends & family
Please be kind to give your opinions on the above
Thanks