Harshita Pandey said:
Actually no! Our ancestors survived poverty and they still upholded janeu, it's the psychological slavery that killed the South Indian Brahmin community. Psychological western slavery of trying to be an Englishman killed the community n the most guilty of all are the priests who evaluate sahastra howsoever they want so that they can get their daughters married to some mallech instead of saving their daughters and teaching them the right thing. Periyar and Ambedkar successfully uprooted varna vyavastha from a lot of regions from India and the result is that cows are being slaughtered in those regions today. Ambedkar wrote in his book, "If you want to finish the brahmins then marry the Brahmin women. Dalits should marry Brahmin women and take them out of their varna. Then Brahmins the micro minority 3 percent population of india will have no women left to marry and breed. They will die a natural death and become extinct". We have become so money driven that we have stopped caring about the stability of the society. I m just scared for the last of Brahmins, the North Indian ones, they need to be protected at all costs. Even though most of their children are staunch when it comes to upholding janeu but even 10% of examples would be enough to pollute the minds of the next generation. Thankfully! Unlike our south indian counterparts, our youth still understands varna vyavastha and the young generation (including me) is aware of these adharmi things which will lead to our downfall.
I feel compelled to respond to this particular post as it appears there is a lot of truth in it.
I am part of this forum for about 10 years if not more. As a young person I have even posted my picture here, which some people commented positively on.
The last 10 years I have lived extensively, studied and worked in north India.
The reality is that everything
@Harshita Pandey says is true - for North Indian Brahmins. I have to commend them for the extent to which they are willing to go to protect their legacy. All I will say is that the 10% of examples are already there in the North Indian society.
But as a whole, Brahmins across India are facing some very similar problems. My friend who is a PhD qualified person is a vegetarian Kulin Brahmin and since most Kulin Brahmin of Bengal are not vegetarian, he is struggling to get matches as the Bihari, UP Brahmins also view the Bengali Brahmin skeptically. I know Odia Brahmins facing similar issues, etc.
I myself have lived my entire life outside of South India and am a "Tamil" Brahmin for paper purpose only, as I learnt most of my Brahmin culture and heritage from my peers in North India. Thankfully the Brahmin culture is not too different state-wise and it is easily adaptable if you are willing to take the effort.
But I too face these kind of issues for marriage. The reason being that my being permanently North India based with not even a single family member in south India ensures that families based in the south (or Tamil Brahmins in general) do not find me a good match. Factor in that I have grown up in the northern states, heavily influenced by west Indian, north Indian culture and practice festivals of mostly north and Central India....the reality is that today the likes of me are often viewed as pariahs because we still have to deal with the tag of "Tamil" Brahmins when the "Tamil" in us is diluted to the point we can't connect with Tamil Nadu anymore. In this case inter community marriage is the only viable solution, and while some of us are still trying to somehow ensure we get SOME Brahmin from any part of India, many will lack that effort or patience and go with whatever comes their way and seems comfortable enough.
I strongly feel due to my experience that the Dravidian movement succeeded in splintering the community and that now the North Indian Tamil Brahmins should be segregated and made separate from the South Indian Tamil Brahmins to ensure better survival and compatibility. Because now the term "Tamil Brahmin" is so broad that it can mean anything from a Punjabi-speaking person to a Tamil-loving person, the only linker being that they are Brahmins and they might speak Tamil. It is difficult to go and seek brides and grooms with such variations and not be disappointed in an arranged search process.
