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First night tales: Do couples in arranged marriages get intimate right away?
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renuka
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Dear Sir,
Its not easy to discuss this topic without getting personal...even if we write generally..someone might think its personal experience.
I feel couples know what to do...cos if caveman waited 6 months to get to know cavewoman in another cave..she would have ran away with the dinosaur and none of us would exists today!LOL
tbs
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not becoz good looking....some rituals/astrology reasons.....its difficult to understand in this modern world....now a days...
12 or 13 yr gal knows very well than an adult.....the world moves so fast....very soon ..12 yr gal is going to get pregnant...
renuka
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Dear VB sir,
I think we are all very still conservative in our mind set...we adhere to Indian culture strongly even though we have varied opinions and hence you are not going to get the desired response.
May be to get the topic running so that some of us can come out of our conservative cocoon..Situation song!
Enjoy:
[video=youtube_share;qzfo4txaQJA]https://youtu.be/qzfo4txaQJA[/video]
I think we are all very still conservative in our mind set...we adhere to Indian culture strongly even though we have varied opinions and hence you are not going to get the desired response.
May be to get the topic running so that some of us can come out of our conservative cocoon..Situation song!
Enjoy:
[video=youtube_share;qzfo4txaQJA]https://youtu.be/qzfo4txaQJA[/video]
renuka
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V.Balasubramani
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Coming from you.... that is a surprise...
May be because of the personal experience gained in this Forum boss.
I know as to how many times I had to approach the Moderator in various threads...
There are few who tend to attack the poster rather than discussing about the topic...
I would like to approach the Moderator for closure this thread if majority of members felt that way.
And they are also free to report.
But would like to avoid approaching the Moderator with a complaint of personal attack at least in this thread.
And I know there are few whose only known ammunition is personal attack.
sravna
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Dear Renuka,
It has supernatural abilities. Supernatural abilities can do the unexpected. So you have to think out of the box to understand what will happen.
tbs
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very limitation....many has rod...but no use....but finally.....ACT OF GOD WINS......some typical tb culture.....you may
not able to comprehend.....
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renuka
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May be because of the personal experience gained in this Forum boss.
I know as to how many times I had to approach the Moderator in various threads...
There are few who tend to attack the poster rather than discussing about the topic...
I would like to approach the Moderator for closure this thread if majority of members felt that way.
And they are also free to report.
But would like to avoid approaching the Moderator with a complaint of personal attack at least in this thread.
And I know there are few whose only known ammunition is personal attack.
Dear Sir,
No need to close this thread...we can de-rail it and talk about other topics..for example now Sravna is saying AI pregnancy might even be possible.
TBS garu says God is mightier than the Rod..so the thread is gaining momentum.
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V.Balasubramani
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Doctor Mam,
If we just go back to say about one century, there was not much love marriages and 90% of the marriages are only arranged ones.
In such cases, both the husband and wife being quite new to each other, how are they to react during their first night.
Some may be of the opinion to wait till the feeling come naturally and some may be tempted to go for it instantly.
There is also one more thing which is about the reaction of the partner.
The tradition of the marriage involves certain games played during the wedding day between the newly wedded couple.
One is about exchange of garland between them each trying their best to dodge the landing of garland and the other is serious about not missing the target.
And the other one is the game where the couple will be asked to put their hand into a small bowl like thing to find out the ring or coin and in the process each one will try to pass the winning chance to the other (some even go for pinching the other)
And there is one more game which is like rolling of coconut towards each other like a ball and they also use appalams to break
There are lot of such games held during ‘Nalungu’ with the sole aim of bringing both closure and to promote intimacy between besides relieving them from tension/stress and ensure relaxation and fun to all.
It is a celebration…. finally conclude with plentiful enjoyment with ove and affection and not to be termed as an act of reproduction.
After a decade the home will be full of children thus proving the love and affection.
Now one may remind the poem ... " What is this life full of care we have no time to stand and stare..." LOL
If we just go back to say about one century, there was not much love marriages and 90% of the marriages are only arranged ones.
In such cases, both the husband and wife being quite new to each other, how are they to react during their first night.
Some may be of the opinion to wait till the feeling come naturally and some may be tempted to go for it instantly.
There is also one more thing which is about the reaction of the partner.
The tradition of the marriage involves certain games played during the wedding day between the newly wedded couple.
One is about exchange of garland between them each trying their best to dodge the landing of garland and the other is serious about not missing the target.
And the other one is the game where the couple will be asked to put their hand into a small bowl like thing to find out the ring or coin and in the process each one will try to pass the winning chance to the other (some even go for pinching the other)
And there is one more game which is like rolling of coconut towards each other like a ball and they also use appalams to break
There are lot of such games held during ‘Nalungu’ with the sole aim of bringing both closure and to promote intimacy between besides relieving them from tension/stress and ensure relaxation and fun to all.
It is a celebration…. finally conclude with plentiful enjoyment with ove and affection and not to be termed as an act of reproduction.
After a decade the home will be full of children thus proving the love and affection.
Now one may remind the poem ... " What is this life full of care we have no time to stand and stare..." LOL
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Raji Ram
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Have you not heard of unwed moms as young as 9 years, in your country, TBS Sir?
Please go through this scarrrry page: List of youngest birth mothers - Wikipedia
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V.Balasubramani
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Even an ultra modern person will NEVER share their 'First night tales' in public. :nono:
BTW, even the OP has not shared anything here.
This just reminds me the Frog in the well tendency/mindset of some.
Just go through this link which has as many as 200 comments and many sharing their expereinces.
Few may have a bruning desire to know what was others expereince rather than contributing to the thread. LOL
Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/2n9kvs/serious_redditors_who_had_arranged_marriage_was/
P.S: This is only a tip of the ice berg. And there is lot to share like this.
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renuka
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Dear Sir,
Sites like Quora or Reddit are just anonymous sites...out here in Forum we members have got to know each other rather well by sharing posts and also by becoming friends and well wishers..so its rather uncomfortable to be talking such personal details about 1st night..frogs in the well also would blush and not reveal such personal details about their MandUka Suhag Raat.
BTW RR Ji has a point...why dont you share your details first?LOL
As a human we usually like to watch and hear others in action..that is how the Porn industry thrives...most of us seldom make personal videos.
So the average human does have some shades of Voyeurism and it would certainly ignite our imagination hearing your version of a conservative shades of Grey.
I would surely honor every explicit detail as an art..but owing to my conservative mind set I am unable to share beyond this from my side.
BTW this thread has already run into 5 pages in less than 24 hours..wow we are surely sex starved!LOL
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V.Balasubramani
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Doctor Madam,
How many of us know each other except for our name...?
Even most don't come out with their own name....?
Most remain comfortable with their anonymous names.
That way your argument on Quora and Reddit will not hold any water.
There are members who want to remain anonymous and don't participate in get-together at Chennai
And there are few who opt not to receive any P.Ms
And there is lot to share like this...
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V.Balasubramani
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The caption of the thread is 'First Night tales'. Repeat Tales and not facts.
So, one is free to imagine tales according to his taste. LOL
Raji Ram
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Yeah, Renu! :ranger:
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V.Balasubramani
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I think the caption being 'First night..... ' few seems to have been carried away with emotional 'Kick' of their own first night experience and started to drift from the main topic obviously.LOL
And if someone's first night tale resembles, Madhanakamarajan story, is it anything to do with the topic?
What is this thread speaks about.....? what is the topic to be discussed........?
It is about intimacy.... let me remind the members that it is about intimacy in respect of couples of arranged marriage.
If they have anything relating to the topic, they are free to discuss
I am against someone coming here and meddling with the thread.
And those who are under the 'First night' impulse may get back to reality. LOL
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V.Balasubramani
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Yes. There are some who come with enigmatic and fake tales of Casino Mami and Spencer Mama...
Who knows the origin and authenticity of such statements.:lol:
I think our members deserve the best and honest tale and of course not Madhanakamarajan type. LOL
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