Generally virtuous man may have self satisfaction in his day-to-day activities but seldom get rewarded by friendship which is mainly because of his honesty and frank speaking attitude. This is also because of the lack of inherent golden quality and immaculate conduct in friends who do not possess i.e. “Frankness” & “Honesty” which I feel is because of various factors in life. He will be singled out for no fault of his for being overtly honest and frank.
I would also like other members of this forum to share their thoughts on this.
Dear Dikshita ji,
Actually we can be frank without being frank..that is sometimes we need to sugar coats words as and when needed.
I believe in speaking the truth at all times but at times I remain silent or delay the truth just to diffuse some situations.
I frankly do not tolerate insincere people and usually I delete them from my friendship list withoit even them realizing it.
To my true friends I am honest and frank without hurting their feelings.... if I really need to be frank and honest I usually spice my words with humor so that the message is got across without the person feeling bad.
I have a friend who is too nice to everyone and many people take advantage of his kindness..so one day I felt that I need to tell him to realize that people take advantage of him.
So I started the conversation by asking him who his favorite character in Mahabharat is..and as I guessed he said Karna.
Then I told him 'I guessed as much..you are also like Karna..and keep giving people everything at the expense of your own self..finally Karna got screwed so you better make sure you dont get screwed too"
With a close friend we can be frank and honest..but it also depends on the gender of the friend cos females are more sensitive and might not take frankness as well.
Males on the other hand are not that sensitive..even if they feel bad they might just have a can of beer and feel better again!LOL
Just to add..as we age silence is the best policy..so unless a particular situation is life threatening..most of the while I try not to be too frank.