you are wasting too much time analysing and need for planning in extra marital affairDear Krish ji,
Let me explain a little bit more...Ok you are right that affairs happen..thats no doubt about that..there is no planning there but after the affair starts that is where planning begins so that one can balance both worlds.That is the planning I was talking about.I hope its clearer now.
Usually males are not that good at multitasking and end up being caught!LOL
cos partly the male has an ego that makes him feel that he is entitled to sow his seeds in a suitable field(Kshetra) and he feels he is the knower of each field (Kshetrajna)
Further more society does not really label males that much and a cheating male is still considered a stud and people might actually blame the wife for not being a good enough wife or a nagging wife and that lead her "poor" husband have an affair...or a wife who does not share his passion or interest in life or who is not his intellectual equal.. what I call the Sindhu Bhairavi Syndrome.
All these makes a male sort of lax in maintaining proper firewall and security in his marriage and extra marital liaisons and he ends up getting caught and faces consequences.
Now coming to females..females are expert at multitasking cos a female is wired to be a mother too.
A female also knows that society will view her harshly if she is caught having an extra marital affair and she knows that she will be called a B***h.
A husband will never be blamed if a wife has an affair..everyone will only blame a woman.
So becos of this females are extra careful when having extra marital affairs and take all precautions to prevent an unwanted pregnancy and STD/HIV.
So far among the adulterer patients I have treated for STD..mostly they are males cos as I mentioned earlier they tend to take things lightly cos of lack of society pressure on males when it comes to code of morals.
The female adulterers on the other hand are discreet and manage well and can even ditch their part time lovers anytime if they fear their husbands might get a whiff.
So you see somehow females are better in planning than males!LOL
affairs are casually had. no one including ladies .
really plans. it is only a one night stand. it is a relationship without a future.
after a couple of transactions one normally lays off unless on wants to get hurt or cause damage to oneself or the lady
in a relationship. it is only a friendship with a bit of sex thrown in.usually it is protected sex.it is as harmless as flirting
it is sensible to be casual about it and move on in life. even here it is give and take like every relationship.In this
relationship both parties know. there is no future. it is only a temporary need.
most of TBs are conventional .they will not accept a casual relationship.
lifestyles are changing . so are views on monogamous marriages and extra marital relationships.
with materialism and high pressure iiving ideas of tight and stifllng relationships are giving place to escape mechanisms
of various sorts. extra marital escapade planned or unplanned is one avenue for easy pleasure and some happiness.
it is anyway not conventional TB cup of coffee. they are ok with tamil brahmin ladies of high virtues who will strictlly keep them in check talking of morality and religion.LOL