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Save Our Culture

sridharb

New member
Namaskaram, I am not against any caste or religion..We as Tamil Brahmin must understand one thing very clear that even though Western culture is taking over the nation, the Veda's, Mantras, our culture, tradition must not be forgotten, please educate your children's that we must respect and follow the rules which our ancestors taught us to follow. Now a days this is getting vanished year by year..Parents of those who are giving so much freedom to Girl child in younger stage and without any boundaries they are getting out of control. I sometimes feel very sad that once they are well educated and get good salary the ego gets too much and the demands are very high during a search for marriage proposal or mostly the girl gets married to different religion and gets converted which is high now a days, its very sad to see this for me, you can see many young brahmin boys are loosing age to find a bride now a days. Mostly the girls side they want boy to be settled abroad or should be staying alone and must have own house etc... I understand, but please understand, in our culture we are appreciated that we stay with our parents. We need to bring the community together and stick to each others help which I will be always there. Please Respect your parents and you can love within our community as well.. not sure whats the problm ? thanks!!
 

renuka

Gold Member
Gold Member
dear sir,

whichever community one comes from, I don't think the problem is caused becos a girl child is given too much freedom and become demanding.

This mindset of blaming females for everything does not work anymore.

Thank God no one blamed a female for Covid-19.

BTW culture is not something that needs to be "saved".
Culture is what "saves" a human.

A culture that saves is a culture that evolves and gets orientated to time,place and person while retaining core values.

Some people are perpetually stuck in time.
The want to be in the past yet enjoy the material comforts of the present and hallucinate for the future.

If one wants a female to "behave", then men too should "behave"

It's always females that are blamed.
Aren't males too having desires that are a way to impractical at times?
Most males seem to be "pampered" that they expect the modern day women to handle a home like a traditional women yet shoulder all responsibility of the modern world.

It would be too stressful. A woman cant be living in the past and present at the same time.
That isnt culture.
Culture is adapting to live in the present.

Hindu philosophy is all about being Mindfully in the Present and not wanting us to be stuck in the vortex of the past.

By living in the past, all one does is a lament in the present.

You wrote this post on May 18th, during the lockdown.

Just imagine, what is the most important culture now?

1)Adherence to healthy lifestyle
2)Adherence to social distancing and sanitation
3)Adherence to principles of charity for humans and animals
4)Adherence to a greener environment and planting more plants/vegetables.
5)Adherence to non divisive politics that would unite the nation in time of need and not play the blame game.
6)Adherence to respect of human lives/values and to address issues that need attention in a nation.
and etc


Culture isnt just about Suprabhatam or Kolam or Idli dosa or a female being egoistic etc.

Culture is being Mindful in the Present.
 

athimber

Active member
Namaskaram, I am not against any caste or religion..We as Tamil Brahmin must understand one thing very clear that even though Western culture is taking over the nation, the Veda's, Mantras, our culture, tradition must not be forgotten, please educate your children's that we must respect and follow the rules which our ancestors taught us to follow. Now a days this is getting vanished year by year..Parents of those who are giving so much freedom to Girl child in younger stage and without any boundaries they are getting out of control. I sometimes feel very sad that once they are well educated and get good salary the ego gets too much and the demands are very high during a search for marriage proposal or mostly the girl gets married to different religion and gets converted which is high now a days, its very sad to see this for me, you can see many young brahmin boys are loosing age to find a bride now a days. Mostly the girls side they want boy to be settled abroad or should be staying alone and must have own house etc... I understand, but please understand, in our culture we are appreciated that we stay with our parents. We need to bring the community together and stick to each others help which I will be always there. Please Respect your parents and you can love within our community as well.. not sure whats the problm ? thanks!!
Sir,
Don't know what exactly prompted you to make this post. But please try to understand that nothing is permanent in this universe. Change is a universal phenomenon and bound to affect anything and everything. The so called Brahmanical culture is also no different and could not escape either. Present day needs are different. Simply doing certain set of prayers or following certain rituals alone could not help you win bread. You need to learn to swim with the tide. That's what our children are doing exactly! Again I can vouch our children are most caring and take good care of their parents. A few exceptions are every where. Lets have some kind of community arrangements for those few unfortunate souls by coming together to make later half of their life as comfortable as possible. And that is some kind of a culture, you would agree, & is need of the hour too.
 

prasad1

Gold Member
Gold Member
dear sir,


BTW culture is not something that needs to be "saved".
Culture is what "saves" a human.

A culture that saves is a culture that evolves and gets orientated to time,place and person while retaining core values.
Culture is being Mindful in the Present.

Wonderful post.
 

PranavGandhi

New member
Yep. I do agree that we have to preserve our culture. Although it might be very difficult because of how modern we are all now. Well, you can't also really blame if the girl also wants a life for her own. Women are now active in finding their own strength. not having to rely on others.
 

praveen

Life is a dream
Staff member
Namaskaram, I am not against any caste or religion..We as Tamil Brahmin must understand one thing very clear that even though Western culture is taking over the nation, the Veda's, Mantras, our culture, tradition must not be forgotten, please educate your children's that we must respect and follow the rules which our ancestors taught us to follow. Now a days this is getting vanished year by year..Parents of those who are giving so much freedom to Girl child in younger stage and without any boundaries they are getting out of control. I sometimes feel very sad that once they are well educated and get good salary the ego gets too much and the demands are very high during a search for marriage proposal or mostly the girl gets married to different religion and gets converted which is high now a days, its very sad to see this for me, you can see many young brahmin boys are loosing age to find a bride now a days. Mostly the girls side they want boy to be settled abroad or should be staying alone and must have own house etc... I understand, but please understand, in our culture we are appreciated that we stay with our parents. We need to bring the community together and stick to each others help which I will be always there. Please Respect your parents and you can love within our community as well.. not sure whats the problm ? thanks!!

Girls have got nothing to do with our culture being forgotten. The problem is most of our "senior" have a very strict and rigid mindset where they want to have control!

As a community, we have failed to evolve with times. Our mindset is still 100 years (or maybe even more) old. Times are changing and along with it, the attitude and acceptance should also change.

We cannot close our eyes and say the world has become dark! It is our ignorance and arrogance.

I still remember, I was slapped by one of my uncles when I asked him a basic question of why do we wear poonal? Rather than explaining the logic and reason behind it, I was told not to ask such stupid and anti-brahmin questions!

Children these days are curious. Rather than feeding and encouraging their curiosity with proper answers, we are simply hiding behind traditions and then blaming them for not adhering to our culture.

When they have no clue about our culture, how they can follow it!
 

prasad1

Gold Member
Gold Member
Girls have got nothing to do with our culture being forgotten. The problem is most of our "senior" have a very strict and rigid mindset where they want to have control!

As a community, we have failed to evolve with times. Our mindset is still 100 years (or maybe even more) old. Times are changing and along with it, the attitude and acceptance should also change.

We cannot close our eyes and say the world has become dark! It is our ignorance and arrogance.

I still remember, I was slapped by one of my uncles when I asked him a basic question of why do we wear poonal? Rather than explaining the logic and reason behind it, I was told not to ask such stupid and anti-brahmin questions!

Children these days are curious. Rather than feeding and encouraging their curiosity with proper answers, we are simply hiding behind traditions and then blaming them for not adhering to our culture.

When they have no clue about our culture, how they can follow it!
Wonderful observation.
Unfortunately, some of us young and old live in the past, they just become like a stick in the mud. They have not evolved with time. Society will change with or without you.
 

usaiyer

Member
In next 100 years ours will become a multi cultural society like US or France.?
so we all lose our identity and become what? Which roots are going to hold you strong."?
Parental regimentation only has helped many in self preservation and self regulation.
What the young are seeking and becoming cannot be lasting and providing peace and inner harmony. All come out of pursuing wrong goals by the society and accentuated by media
imperfect education and aping human behavior. if someone read the book "Into the wild"
by John Krakauer one can understand this, We need to tame the horse if you want to ride it.
Society cannot be what it should be if it is not governed by set of conventions, self imposed regulation and moral fiber. The responsibility lies with Elders.
 
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