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Raising Children As Good Hindus

prasad1

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We all have our own way of raising our children. But at times we all had our own doubts. Even today I feel I could have been better at it if I had some guidance. This article may serve as a primer.

I always stress the importance of presenting Hinduism to their children in a practical way so that it influences each child’s life for the better. Hindu practices should, for example, help children get better grades in school and get along well with others. Of course, there is not enough time in a short session to present all the many guidelines that a parent would find useful.
 

GNANA SUNYAM

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/Howsoever our parents may have raised us. Let us raise our children as good human beings. My parents were particular that I am a good brahmin, performing sandhyavandhanam three times a day lifelong. How many brahmins born in the 60s and 70s have performed sandhyavandhanam three times a day? If yes, for how long after brahmopadhesam?
 

GNANA SUNYAM

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I performed sandhyavandhanam 3 times a day for a few days since brahmopadhesam, compelled by my periyappa, my Father's paternal cousin, who is a stickler. It made me resent him. I was eagerly waiting for the day he would return to his hometown.
 

GNANA SUNYAM

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Perhaps you would say, 'raising someone has a hindu does not necessarily mean raising his as brahmin'. Agreed. Again if you were to precisely define what it means to raise someone as hindu, it would complicate matters. Children born in the first decade of 2021 are not interested in religion, philosophy etc. They want to outbetter the other in tech-savviness, mobile-savviness etc. Ambitions have changed. Aims in life have changed.
 
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prasad1

prasad1

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Gnana Sunyamji you are right. Maybe raising as a good human being is the right word. We need not qualify it as Brahmin or Hindu.
 

GNANA SUNYAM

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Who all among us had/has/would give our children the freedom to choose their desired spiritual path, or religion, or philosophy whatsoever using their own discretion?

Ain't we all imposing our convictions upon them, conditioning and programming their minds to sync with our beliefs, customs, traditions etc?
 

GNANA SUNYAM

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Most of them born in the 90s among hindus hate hindusim not even realizing that they have a hatred towards that religion. But they are feigning hinduism cheating their parents and cheating their own selves. If only they are being honest, introspect into themselves they would realize the truth. Every brahmin parent desire their children to go to America, invariably and preparing their children to realize their dream. They force their dream in their children also. In the end many become psychological ruts.

Solution to this problem is raise them as good human beings and leave the rest to their choice.

Don't impose brahminism, for that matter any 'ism', on them.

Dont't condition and program their minds to suit your own beliefs.
 

GNANA SUNYAM

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... and please for heaven's sake, throw that US obsession away from your minds. The USA would no longer be a heaven. All roads no longer lead to USA.
 

ashok68

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Prasad Ji,

It is a nice article and very informative.

And thanks for sharing this.

We were introduced to Hinduism from day of one of our learning our life by our parents.

Most were brought up by our parents as a Hindu. They do follow all religious rituals and practices. We observe them in our day to day life and experience the pleasure of such celebrations, etc .. We do visit temples though there is a puja room in every house.

Once the children grow up as adult, they are to decide their faith. It is their choice and discretion having read the people, rituals, peace and happiness they enjoy during their effort to stand on their own legs. They exercise their free-will.

Here in India, more particularly, the young generation are now paying more attention to upgrading the temples we visit. They started installing more apps and introducing tech into managing the affairs of the temple, right from regulating the crowd. They instal CCTV and monitor the devotees and think about providing best experience to the devotee by extending facilities like accommodation, food, prasadam, etc etc

In some temple, they are working on introduction of pre-paid smart cards, to ensure hassle free dharsan

They think of making best use of Tech in routine administration, booking for accommodation and other procedures and thus upgrade the function of the temple efficiently.

There is growth of visiting devotees ( but for corona).

These temples which were suffering from manual operations all these years, slowly upgraded and managed by best minds using Tech and apps. It is transparent right from managing Hundi collection to revenue collection from properties owned by the temple, temple’s overhead expenses, etc

We don’t need to pay more attention such issues like growing up our children..

Let us worship God, pray for the welfare of our family, neighbours, relatives and everyone.

God will take care of the growth of our children

First let us be Hindus and practice the principles of Sanatana Dharma in our daily life.

The young generation will take care of itself. They think better and they know the best

The easiest thing is to pass comments on Hinduism

And the difficult one to learn and practicing it in our lives.
 
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Who all among us had/has/would give our children the freedom to choose their desired spiritual path, or religion, or philosophy whatsoever using their own discretion?

Ain't we all imposing our convictions upon them, conditioning and programming their minds to sync with our beliefs, customs, traditions etc?
hi

i agreed sir....sometimes what we have not achieved in our life....we impose with our children...

i like the newton's third law/ law of karma.....EVERY ACTION HAS EQUAL AND OPPOSITE

REACTION...so prepare for it... first human being then HINDU.....
 

GNANA SUNYAM

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hi

i agreed sir....sometimes what we have not achieved in our life....we impose with our children...

i like the newton's third law/ law of karma.....EVERY ACTION HAS EQUAL AND OPPOSITE

REACTION...so prepare for it... first human being then HINDU.....
I aspired to be the best brahmin. Failed. aspired to be the best hindu. failed again. aspired to be a good human being. succeeded. also realized being a good human being is all what matters. rest are darkness. deception. false.

Aspire to be a human being. you will experience true joy, happiness, peace, bliss, prosperity, etc etc all that is good which neither being best hindu nor being best brahmin would provide. You will realize you have achieved what is worthy of achieving. Also you will realize how you had deluded yourselves and have wasted all these years precious years aspiring to achieve something non-existent and unreal.

Raise your children to be the best human being. you will enjoy the fruit of it. Not only you, your entire community, the society you live and the entire humankind will enjoy the fruit.

Wishing you the best !!!!
 
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GNANA SUNYAM

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How many zealous brahmins here, who vax eloquent about the greatness of hinduism and the honor and privilege of being born a brahmin, have raised their sons to be priests with a VISION and MISSION to spread hinduism, admitting them not in schools or colleges but in Veda paada saalais which prepare them to be priests!!!!!!!!! exclamation not question.
 

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... and please for heaven's sake, throw that US obsession away from your minds. The USA would no longer be a heaven. All roads no longer lead to USA.
hi sir,

my daughter got US MD without any reservation policy in USA...my both children suceeded in USA...

no regrets....im indian army veteran...but my country never respected...but i got respect in USA as army

veteran....human value is more important....in USA...respect the labor and humanity.....
 

GNANA SUNYAM

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Yes, I am fortunate, not because that I am in the USA, but because I am happy.
People like you would be happy anywhere under any circumstance, regardless of surroundings, external agents etc. Because you were raised as such. Your happiness is hence no ascribed to the super power status of the country you live in, not its wealth.
 

GNANA SUNYAM

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hi sir,

my daughter got US MD without any reservation policy in USA...my both children suceeded in USA...

no regrets....im indian army veteran...but my country never respected...but i got respect in USA as army

veteran....human value is more important....in USA...respect the labor and humanity.....
There are merits and demerits with any nation/country. India also has its merits. I am not pro-indian or anti-US. Even I had dreams of studying in Harvard or Stanford and held those credentials of highest value. Besides I value vegetarian dish, that too Indian veg, made in India. I would trade the costliest pizza or burger for kumbakonam degree coffee. Value is relative. Ultimately what you value, how you perceive boils down to how you were raised.

PS: Even if I were to study the Bible, I would rather from Vedhanayagam Sastri than Billy Graham.
 
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prasad1

prasad1

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People like you would be happy anywhere under any circumstance, regardless of surroundings, external agents etc. Because you were raised as such. Your happiness is hence no ascribed to the super power status of the country you live in, not its wealth.
I guess I should leave the conversation with you in this thread. You seem to be in a resentful mood. I was just being friendly. Your response is less than friendly. I am sorry.
 

GNANA SUNYAM

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I guess I should leave the conversation with you in this thread. You seem to be in a resentful mood. I was just being friendly. Your response is less than friendly. I am sorry.
perhaps you misinterpreted. perhaps I did not communicate appropriately and I am sorry if that is the case. I was appreciating your broad-heartedness and appreciating your parents for raising you as one who would be happy regardless of circumstances, surroundings environment. Your happiness comes from within and not without. You are strong in your inner man. If every parent raise their children likewise, they would also be happy.
 

kgopalan

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What Will Happen if a Brahmin Eats Non-Vegetarian Food?*....
A question from my reader Amitabh Sharma: "Sir, I have seen lot of Brahmins eat non-vegetarian food. What will happen if a Brahmin eats non-vegetarian?"

*"What do you expect to happen? Your stomach has power to digest both. And it is your false belief that Brahmin as a caste don't eat non-vegetarian"*

"Phew...I was relieved. Sir, I thought you were fanatic vegetarian...In fact, I am a Brahmin and have eaten non-veg...Still I can follow Brahmanism, right?"

*"Brahmanism has nothing to do with today's Brahmin caste. If you follow Brahmanism - that is Sattvik way of life - you have to be pure vegetarian."*

"I am confused..."
*"Our ancestors thrived to be a Brahmin...They knew that Brahmanism is divinely ordained cosmological order. They realized that a human can lead a perfect, peaceful and contented life if he followed Brahmanism...Hence everybody wanted to be Brahmins. They thrived to be one....*

*Sages like Vasishta, Viswamitra, Vyasa, Jambooka rishi, Shrunga muni, Valmiki, Agasthya, Gowtama etc were not born in Brahmin caste. But they gained ultimate knowledge (brahmajnana) and became Brahmins. Sant Namdev, Sant Ravidass, Sant Kabir and Guru Nanak were not caste Brahmins. Puttaparti Sai Baba, Ramalinga Swamigal, Kripananda Variar, Appar Swamigal, Sri Narayana Guru, Shirdi Sai Baba, Mata Amritananda mayi etc were not in Brahmin caste.*

*All of them evolved to be Brahmin. Ved Vyas, Manu, Vasistha etc upheld the importance of Brahmin. But they were not born in Brahmin caste.*

*Lord Krishna, who positioned Brahmins as supreme though his Baghvad Gita, was a backward caste Yadav. There is not even single HINDU god who is a Brahmin. But all our ancestors propagated, supported and fought for Brahmanism. However, no Brahmin wrote or said anything in favour of Brahmanism. It was non-Brahmins who upheld the positions of Brahmins seeing them as role models.*
*Try to figure out why for yourself, rather than swallowing the puked items (information) provided by the missionaries and communists. A Brahmin's son/daughter cannot be called Brahmin until and unless he/she qualify as so. If that was the case, why don't you call Ravan a Brahmin? His father Visravas was a famous Brahmin.*

*Dhrona was a Brahmin, but he became a renowned Kshatriya. Vishwamitra, the son of a Kshatriya grew vigorously with the qualities of a Brahmin.*

*Just because one is born to a Brahmin family CANNOT be Brahmin. Krishna envisaged Brahmin not as caste or religion. It's like a profession. How will you address your college professor's son? Do you call him professor? Just because your classmate's father is a doctor, will you address her as doctor? The lawyer's son automatically becomes lawyer? No - they have to be qualified for that.*

*Our ancestors envisaged that democracy and merit are the foundation of a healthy society, hence never supported the generational dynasties. But that has changed during the last 1000 years.*
*Our ancestors say Brahmin is a position. It is a status. Not a caste.*

“janmana jaayate shudraha. Sanskaaraat dvija uchyate. vedapaati bhavet vipra. brahma jnanathi brahmana.”

*“By birth, every man is a Shudra (an ignorant person). Through various types of disciplines (samskaras), he becomes dvija (twice born). Through the studies of Veda, he becomes a vipra (or a wise man). Through realization of supreme spirit (brahmajnana), he becomes a Brahmin.”*

*He whoever is wise, without a caste, not bound by kama-krodha-lobha-moha-mada-maatsarya (lust, anger, covetousness, delusion, pride, jealousy: These are the six passions of the mind), has realized the 'Self' (consciousness), has established himself in Brahman (The cosmos) and the one in him is a Brahmin according to the Vedas.*

*Two broad territorial divisions exist among the Brahmin: the Panch Gour (Five Northerner) and the Panch Dravida (Five Southerner). Their skin colour can be fair or black. Their races are different. That means, Brahmanism has nothing to do with caste or race - it can only be achieved. The society gave respect to Brahmins not out of fear, but because of great regards and respect they commanded through their Sattvik life style. A Brahmin was considered as the flag-ship of Sanatan Dharma.*
*To achieve Brahmanism, one has to follow Sattvik life style. They have clearly noted in all scriptures that “Sattvik Lifestyle” is perfect for Ayru-Arogya-Soukhya (longevity, health and happiness). It includes self-discipline, spiritual practices like prayer, yoga and meditation, and cultivating virtuous qualities such as honesty, non-violence, compassion, contentment, selflessness etc.*
*Satvik food is the foundation of such life. You are not supposed to eat part of dead body. Those who followed Sattvik food and life style were elevated to a position of Brahmin.* *Hence vegetarianism is the basic foundation of Brahminism. Those who wished their children continue to this life style, adhered to this practice in their families.*
*Just like the Mulayam Singhs, Karunanidhis, Sonia Gandhis, Farooq Abdullas, Bal Thackereys etc want their children to become politicians, it is normal for a Brahmin to think that his children or parambara (heritage or succession) to live a life of Brahmin.*
*But it was not an easy task like becoming politicians. One has to be qualified to be one. Hence they have developed communities surrounding temples and continued the Vedic practices and rituals. Children were not allowed to mingle with others because of their selfishness to see coming generations to live a happy and contended life.*
*The evolved people dreamed that their ancestors follow the Sattvik life style by being vegetarian - this slowly developed into a community thinking. Later the public started calling this community as Brahmin caste. So, it was easier for a child born in Brahmin caste to be a Brahmin than child born in other castes. But there is a huge negative for this. A child born in such communities has the responsibility of hundreds of generations’ aspirations and dreams.*
"But I have read that some Brahmin sects were eating fish and non-vegetarian"
*"It's a fake story. Please show me a proof? You have to quote from authentic sources. The Brahmin family inter-mingled with fishermen community started eating fish and floated such convenient stories such as fish is Jalapushpa or their eating fish was mentioned in some Puranas. That story is not true. Some people told me another funny story - "our ancestors were eating mid-portion of fish. Then join its head and tail with a mantra so that it gets life again." Fair enough. You also eat mid-portion and give life to the fish, I said. Nobody has shown me such magic till this date.*
"Oh, I didn't know so much. I have been eating non-vegetarian food for quite some time..."Amitabh said.
*"If you are born in a Brahmin community that was following vegetarianism for the last few thousand years, be very very careful.*
*You are not aware about the huge mistake you are inviting. Your ancestors wanted you to live a life of a pure Brahmin. They wanted to see that the evolved human beings would remain in this planet. And you are happily going against their Parambara (heritage). Will the Jeevatma be pleased? Your 'self' will be confused and DNA will develp conflict."*

*By eating non-veg food you are not only inviting wrath of your ancestors, but also creating a huge conflict with your DNA. There is something known as ' Parambarya Maryada' (Traditional discipline) encoded in your DNA. Those who learned about genetics and DNA can tell you for how many years the power of genes will continue in generations.*

*Simply put, a real Brahmin is a vegetarian that doesn't mean every vegetarian is a Brahmin. All Sattviks are Brahmins, that doesn't mean a person born in Brahmin caste is Sattvik. A person eating non-vegetarian and claiming to be a Brahmin is similar to a corrupt politician making statements against corruption.*

*When you are born in a Brahmin family, the existence gives you a great opportunity to be vegetarian hence you can be a Sattvik following cosmically ordained life style of non-violence. When you eat dead-body you are sharing the violence and becoming responsible for a brutal killing. This is unheard in your DNA behavior for the last 2000 years.*

*I have already discussed about the DNA conflicts and function of Brain in some articles. It will be carried and reflected in your genes too. Then, there will be no point in crying foul and telling people that god is unfair to my family! You are inviting miseries for the next generation too. Just look around and see the increasing infertility, genetic disorders and diseases, physical ailments among Brahmin families....Some Brahmin castes are becoming extinct... .."*
"You are scaring me Uday Sir....What will I do then sir....?”

*"I am telling you facts that I understood. It shouldn't scare you. Face the facts. Be grateful to the existence to let you take birth in a community that believed in Brahmanism for centuries. Stop eating any dead body part right NOW. Do penance for insulting your ancestors. Focus on Sattvik style...At least, some corrections in life can happen..."!*
Forward....
 
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