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Perfecting The Art Of Detached Involvement In Relationships

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Perfecting the art of detachment involvement is a necessity if we are to meditate successfully. But a newcomer to meditation might wonder how can we become detached? Don't we have to run our homes and offices and interact with people even if we are practicing meditation? Then does detachment not mean that we are withdrawing from our relationships and becoming cold?

In almost all spiritual paths right through the passage of time a lot of significance has been given to the practice of detachment. This is simply because one of the deepest habits all souls have developed in the cycle of birth and rebirth is attachment and we don't realize that whatever we become attached to becomes a trap for our consciousness, for the self, which causes the creation of fear inside us.

So then how do we know that we are attached to someone or something? We know that we are attached when we start thinking about someone or something when they are not present with us and when there is no need to think about them. Sometimes realizing and sometimes without us realizing consciously at that time, our mental energy is being drained and we do not have control over our thoughts and feelings. Whenever we become attached to anything, we automatically invite fear to be present, whether it is to people, objects, position, power, money or even an opinion. Any form of attachment means there will be a fear of damage or loss. Fear then takes many forms like worry, anxiety and stress as it hinders our spiritual growth. Where there is fear, love cannot exist. Detachment is the foundation if we are to remain positive, fearless and loving towards others while interacting with them. This is known as detached involvement.

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Sometimes I feel if a person starts to think of detachment ..most of the times they are actually seeking attachment but prefer to bury their feelings instead of facing reality.

Detachment is sometimes a side effect of loneliness..a temporary solution to lack of attention which can go either way..that is the person gets used to it and becomes cold and less compassionate or the person may start to get a delusion that he/she has attained a higher spiritual existence.

Detachment in the true sense is actually very hard to put into practice..most of the while if we are detaching ourselves from someone or something its either we are not too interested in the person or things as before or we have moved on to get attached to another person or object.

Attachment is like how a caterpillar moves from one blade of grass to another..its slowly grasps the next blade and only leaving the previous blade for a split second.Same way with we humans..detachment is just transient..just in time to be attached again.

Religion gives the example of detachment as this... a water droplet on a Lotus leaf that rolls of and never gets wet..but what we see is only what is on the surface...what about micro absorption that we cant see with the naked eye?

So technically every contact we come across in this world creates an imprint in our mind..why worry what attaches and what detaches??

We need to concentrate on the whole picture to be happy in life..let some attachments paint a beautiful picture in our mind and let some detachments add the contrast for a lovely overall image.

Everything counts..colors and contrasts.
 
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renukaji

you are reaching the status of all wise guru

jokes apart. you are right when you say that detachment is part delusion and a temporary reaction to lack of attention.

we also harden our feelings and claim we have reached a level of higher existence

we can never give up our attachments

. we can increase only our attachments to more things and people to lessen the effect of attachment/detachment to one

or two. we are all mix of attachments and detachments. only the mix varies with time
 
renukaji

you are reaching the status of all wise guru

jokes apart. you are right when you say that detachment is part delusion and a temporary reaction to lack of attention.

we also harden our feelings and claim we have reached a level of higher existence

we can never give up our attachments

. we can increase only our attachments to more things and people to lessen the effect of attachment/detachment to one

or two. we are all mix of attachments and detachments. only the mix varies with time

Dear Krish ji,

Even in a "detached realized soul"..there is still attachment cos he has detached himself from the phenomenal world but attached himself on God or the Universal Consciousness within.

Attachment is a locus of concentration of the human mind.... as long as the mind exists attachment is invariably present.

I have no idea in cases of people who claim to go beyond the mind..what do they attach themselves to? No idea.
 
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