Is traditional marriage more useful to the couples involved or to the tradition?

[SANDHYAV]

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IS TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE MORE USEFUL TO
a) THE COUPLES INVOLVED OR
b) TO THE TRADITION?

IN MODERN TIMES!



my friend is gonnu get married, Before putting money on the wedding ceremony, he had this spike of thought ...

Respected swamijis and sirs -- JUST 4 by 4 lines in each post are allowed ( ONLY ! )

 

[krish44]

Naturally traditional marriage is more useful to couple involved

As it carries approval of societys elders , near and dear relatives

Provides back up structure of two families for support in time of need

Also helps in making possible a stable next generation with family values

 

[SANDHYAV]

PERFECT

If there is a society elder, a predominant elder, for example your boss who is not very approval of traditional marriage or a marriage at a particular stage of a youngster's life, then the marriage will cripple..

Leaving apart the cost and mode of a wedding ceremony, Nurturing the next generation of ONE'S family, with a set of NEXT-GENERATION values..

Wonder how aruvathank kalyanam HELPS!

 

[krish44]

Sandyavji
Disapproval of boss does not matter . can change boss or organisation. no issue of crippling of marriage

naturally next generation has to be nurtured with values that should enable him to face challenges of modern days

aruvatham kalyanum reinforces marriage with commitment for sadabishekam,lol

 

[SANDHYAV]

NO ji,

Let us assume a marriage occurs amidst a climate where the:

THE BOSS IS STRONG

YOUNGSTERS AROUND THE WORK-PLACE HAVE THIS fear OF intensity 4/10 ( 4/10 on a score 10 being fear of death and 1 being fear losing a bus to a cinema )

AND THE FEAR IS: IF YOU GET MARRIED DURING THE INITIAL 4 YEARS OF YOUR NEW JOB IN THIS PARTICULAR COMPANY U WILL FACE PROBLEMS FROM HIM-THE BIG BOSS. of-course other SUB-BOSSES will help

 

[krish44]

NO ji,

Let us assume a marriage occurs amidst a climate where the:

THE BOSS IS STRONG

YOUNGSTERS AROUND THE WORK-PLACE HAVE THIS fear OF intensity 4/10 ( 4/10 on a score 10 being fear of death and 1 being fear losing a bus to a cinema )

AND THE FEAR IS: IF YOU GET MARRIED DURING THE INITIAL 4 YEARS OF YOUR NEW JOB IN THIS PARTICULAR COMPANY U WILL FACE PROBLEMS FROM HIM-THE BIG BOSS. of-course other SUB-BOSSES will help

To hell with the boss.

He does not own you

Find a person who will find alternate job for you

Tell your man to put up with you until you find alternate job.

The scenario you described sometimes happen.

you need to keep relationship with bosses professional and not allow intrusion into personal space.

 

[prasad1]

IS TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE MORE USEFUL TO
a) THE COUPLES INVOLVED OR
b) TO THE TRADITION?

IN MODERN TIMES!



my friend is gonnu get married, Before putting money on the wedding ceremony, he had this spike of thought ...

Respected swamijis and sirs -- JUST 4 by 4 lines in each post are allowed ( ONLY ! )

Who gives a XXXX about the couples or traditions.


The meaning of life. Yes indeed, the process of reproduction is the fundamental meaning of why we live ‚ we live to reproduce and we reproduce to live. Not in the individual sense, but think broader, in the species sense, in fact all the way to the ‘living things,￾ sense. The reason that we reproduce is simply to create more of the same organisms as us; the closer we get to cloning ourselves, the closer we get to perfectly perpetuating our genes.

In some species the parents die in order to preserve the future of species, (for instance salmon fish).

 

[tbs]

IS TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE MORE USEFUL TO
a) THE COUPLES INVOLVED OR
b) TO THE TRADITION?

IN MODERN TIMES!



my friend is gonnu get married, Before putting money on the wedding ceremony, he had this spike of thought ...

Respected swamijis and sirs -- JUST 4 by 4 lines in each post are allowed ( ONLY ! )

hi

MAY BE ...MAY NOT BE

 

[CHANDRU1849]

PERFECT

If there is a society elder, a predominant elder, for example your boss who is not very approval of traditional marriage or a marriage at a particular stage of a youngster's life, then the marriage will cripple..

Leaving apart the cost and mode of a wedding ceremony, Nurturing the next generation of ONE'S family, with a set of NEXT-GENERATION values..

Wonder how aruvathank kalyanam HELPS!

If the society leader is very powerful, who has a say in the society, the youngster would also be forced to join the chorus. But, if the society is tradition bound and very firm, the leader will either become dummy or a silent spectator.

In organization, the boss' role is to supervise his official work and not interfere his personal matters. If it is allowed, then the youngster seems to have no confidence in himself.

Regarding cost and mode of wedding, society will automatically change according to the situation demands. Of late, lot of marriages are being performed in Temples.

 

[krish44]

I know of two instances where my bosses tried imposing their own solutions on youngsters working for them

In one case , the boss tried to take care of a north indian girl in love with a South indian boy who had gone abroad on foreign assignment and leaving the girl to be taken

care by him in his absence. The girls family forced her to resign and take her away to marry someone else. The boss held on to resignation of girl and refused to allow

the girl to leave the job for a couple of months. The family got its way and got her married elsewhere .

In another case, a married boy ,south indian wanted to run away from country to meet and get engaged to a german girl he had met while on training abroad.

The boss found out that the boy had a bank loan for foreign training for which some colleague had stood surety . The boss coolly made the colleague withdraw the surety when the boy tried

taking a flight to germany. The boy was deboarded from flight and brought back and forced to live with wife.lol

Bosses of older generation were a law into themselves .they also interfered in lives of people working for them and did what in their opinion correct for their

employees.

even in schools teachers decided whether students should get into science or arts stream . parents those days in rural ares could not distinguish between streams.

so teachers decided on their behalf.lol

 

[renuka]

I know of two instances where my bosses tried imposing their own solutions on youngsters working for them

In one case , the boss tried to take care of a north indian girl in love with a South indian boy who had gone abroad on foreign assignment and leaving the girl to be taken

care by him in his absence. The girls family forced her to resign and take her away to marry someone else. The boss held on to resignation of girl and refused to allow

the girl to leave the job for a couple of months. The family got its way and got her married elsewhere .

In another case, a married boy ,south indian wanted to run away from country to meet and get engaged to a german girl he had met while on training abroad.

The boss found out that the boy had a bank loan for foreign training for which some colleague had stood surety . The boss coolly made the colleague withdraw the surety when the boy tried

taking a flight to germany. The boy was deboarded from flight and brought back and forced to live with wife.lol

Bosses of older generation were a law into themselves .they also interfered in lives of people working for them and did what in their opinion correct for their

employees.

even in schools teachers decided whether students should get into science or arts stream . parents those days in rural ares could not distinguish between streams.

so teachers decided on their behalf.lol

OMG!

Why did the boss interfere in personal lives of his employees?

For me its simple..what happens in my employees personal lives is none of my business as long it does not affect their work performance or land anyone in legal issues.

 

[krish44]

renukaji
when sandhyav ji talks of bosses interfering in lives of employees , it is a real scenario .

many bosses have their own views on morality and right and wrong .

since many bosses do not have sufficient work to engage themselves in govt offices , they spend their time guiding employees regarding the right moral path, decide

on whom they

should date and marry. This kind of actions could go to ridiculous heights like hounding or harassing employees ,casting aspersion on characters. passing snide remarks

etc.Ladies are victims of such things in office