While no one can predict the future, based on current trends, I tend to agree with OP re the conclusions, though not the angst.
Many of us have many many reasons, why we have discarded many of the handmedown rituals or values, and each has his or her own reasons. I can list a few here, which I see as relevant to me. Some may have the same reasons, and some may have others.
- Exclusively casteist and I don’t mean it in a negative way. I would like to practice a version of Hinduism, which is universal practice to all our brethren. We can have plurality of practices, but not exclusivity.
- Irrelevance of many rituals
- Cumbersomeness of rituals
- Loneliness of rituals; prefer to attend group bhajans or discourses or group prayers regularly than sit alone at home
- Acute sense of discomfort with certain texts like purusha shukta, which appears, to me atleast, put Brahmins as ‘superior’; unable to accept that
- Superstitious adherence to horoscope and such, inspite of a high failure rate
Organized education of our values for Hindus as a whole including classes for the children at various ages and levels, i think, is one good way to build a sold foundation of our faith. it is something that we can learn from abrahamic religions. again, this too, is a personal opinion.
I have discarded only stuff that I cannot accept from a moral viewpoint mostly. Stuff I like are our bhajans, temples, my palghat cuisine, and I would imagine, even a century from now, all of these would exist, though the future of palghat cuisine may be questioned, considered the far and wide diaspora, and the internationalization of food habits (for even vegetarians).
The very ‘values’ that some people regret passing, including inter caste marriages, I welcome. I would also welcome new blood into our community, and our willingness to accept IR/IC marriages, and educate our children, and encourage them, to bring up their progeny in the best of our Hindu faith, sans the narrowness of casteism. Since we don’t do this, the children seek asylum in other faiths, which I think is a shame.
Caste, while playing a deciding role in India, is apparently a loose fitting cloth, cast away without any effort, for the 2nd generation Indian Canadians. All of tambram families that I know, barring 4 or 5, their children have married outside of caste. The parents who might have reservations in india, appear to have no such qualms here. If caste was all that important, they would have behaved differently I think. No?
Maybe its time, that we as a community took the lead, and have arranged inter caste marriages. We have nothing to lose. And lots to gain, I think.
You have given up as you are unable to tackle it as a PIO in foreign shores...Do we ask the TamBrahms in India to give up and face this scourge lying down...The fight is not you Vs me..We require 2 hands to clap..Our children are equally responsible for this
We need to face this and institute controls or let the community be allowed to perish in the name of IC/IR
You have said that we should arrange IC....It is like being out of the frying pan into the fire
I don't think Tam Brahms are ready for it..
Why is this problem only in Tamil Nadu?
In the North Brahmins are not facing this problem...IC is happening (few & far) in North but it is less compared to here
I think the elders should get together to resolve this..This should include the Acharyas also