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Do you need Happiness and Peace?

sravna

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Folks,

In the past i have been trying to write articles on self improvement but i have not been able to quite complete the. Now I planning a thread on the ways to be and stay happy and peaceful and hope to completely share my ideas. The insights are based on my experiences which I think will hold good for most of you also.

In my view happiness happens out of the following three factors:

i. One's health
ii. One's intelligence
iii. One's wealth

So if one is lacking in one of these, one's happiness comes down.

The good news is each of these factors can be enhanced and help one towards greater happiness.
 

Vaagmi

Well-known member
Dear Sravna,
Please define happiness first and then proceed. What is happiness? Is it an esoteric feel good Ness or is it simply the absence of misery and discomfort? Please discuss this in detail first. Also if it is different thing for different people without a common denominator to relate to or a common yard stick to measure with it will be meaningless to discuss .
 

sravna

Well-known member
Your happiness also depends on how much happy you can make others. Trust me this is such a powerful way of creating happiness for self.
 

sravna

Well-known member
Dear Sravna,
Please define happiness first and then proceed. What is happiness? Is it an esoteric feel good Ness or is it simply the absence of misery and discomfort? Please discuss this in detail first. Also if it is different thing for different people without a common denominator to relate to or a common yard stick to measure with it will be meaningless to discuss .
Dear Shri Vaagmi,

I define happiness as a positive feeling that happens when one is not in misery or discomfort physically or mentally and when one's righteous desires are satisfied. By righteous desires I mean desires that are not harmful to others. So it is beyond being just the absence of misery and discomfort.
 

sravna

Well-known member
One should strive to see the same positive feeling in others as one tries to see in self. Only then happiness is complete.
 

sravna

Well-known member
Let me focus first on using one's intelligence towards happiness. I believe that a way of expressing intelligence is goodness. Goodness is a vastly underrated trait. It may not be difficult to be good but to be unconditionally good requires extraordinary intelligence. If there is one single most important trait that one would want to develop in their quest for happiness , it is unconditional goodness.
 

sravna

Well-known member
If you are able to display unconditional goodness you also possess the necessary defence to protect yourself from harm. How do you develop the quality of unconditional goodness?
 

sravna

Well-known member
The first thing in cultivating unconditional reactions is to work on conventional thinking.
 
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sravna

Well-known member
Conventional reaction is typically based on focus on self and that others have an angle when interacting with us
 

sravna

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The focus may well be on self and others may well have an angle but the trick is not to be restricted by that thinking but try to expand on it and make it part of a greater thinking.
 

sravna

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one has to practice the technique of seeing beyond others outer reactions. That immensely helps in forming the right perspective and giving unconditionality to our responses.
 

sravna

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My wife may be extremely angry at me and shout at me for something I did. If maybe I am able to see through her anger, I might see she just wanted me to be correct in my behaviour. It is just that she is not able to accept that I do something wrong. So if I am somehow able to understand that and react in the right way, I am not being affected by her outer action but able to see through it and respond appropriately.
 

sravna

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On thee contrary my adversary may not able to take if I react correctly and hence may unleash his actions on me. If again I am able to see through his outer reaction, I will not be affected by his actions and hence respond appropriately. In either case I am not being affected by actions of others and hence the reaction is unconditional
 

sravna

Well-known member
The real challenges are to control ones negative reaction at the instant of others action and to not harbor negativity for long.
 

sravna

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Remember typically people do not respond negatively with you when you are wrong unless they are your near and dear ones who will be typically negative with you when you are wrong and vice versa regarding positive actions from others
 

naithru

Active member
Your happiness also depends on how much happy you can make others. Trust me this is such a powerful way of creating happiness for self.
happiness is also the opposite of sadness.
It comes due to 3 things मन the mind, तन the body and धन the money.
our sufferings are due to mind, pains to body and money problems.
all human beings suffer one or all three
 

renuka

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My wife may be extremely angry at me and shout at me for something I did. If maybe I am able to see through her anger, I might see she just wanted me to be correct in my behaviour. It is just that she is not able to accept that I do something wrong. So if I am somehow able to understand that and react in the right way, I am not being affected by her outer action but able to see through it and respond appropriately.
Thats why polygamy helps...if one wife is angry till she cools down one can be with the other wife...dont worry be happy!
 

sravna

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Thats why polygamy helps...if one wife is angry till she cools down one can be with the other wife...dont worry be happy!
Will the first wife ever cool down if I am with the second wife? You are giving suggestions for more trouble
 

Vaagmi

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Dear Sravna,

What you are speaking about is a science already studied well, codified, opened up and very much in use by individuals in private life as well as in business where human resources are to be managed for productivity.

In Behavioural science we call it Transaction analysis or simply TA.

Please go through a good book on TA and you will get a valuable perception of the subject.

I have been immensely benefited by knowing the subject.

Try it. Best wishes.
 

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