What we forget is , He/She has already decided who will be the hubby or wife and nothing changes that. When making choices, do you know all of them ;Karmanyeva athikaram asthe, ma phaleshu katha cha na" tells that while your view may look beneficial, there are other forces, events, poorva phunya etc., changes the outcome. most Horoscope based marriage fail (but not openly admitted ) due to this reason. For example why should the groom be only a CA?Why not a PhD in accounting or Finance. Why not M COM or MSC. The fact the girl is only B.Com and CA is not unique. It is not a criticism rather an observation. So, the requirement may be (1) Highly educated (2) Healthy (3) loving caring and without vices and be close to either father or mother or both(4) Potential for a reasonably comfortable life and as far as possible be near parents to share and care the love (6) Willing to go for a marital counselor with my daughter should be the criteria. If the girl or boy is not the eldest one and close to either the father or mother and if the child is not the last one with close relation with either parent, then it is found that the middle children will have a difficult married life. Either they will be extrovert, popular and take the advice of only their friends or stubborn and narcissist. Single child has the same traits. These studies were not there in the past. Thus, you have to know more before you can set the choices. I had been a Groom's friend in five marriages. In three I prevailed and all of them are happily married and part of my life. Two others, the parents ignored every thing and now live in old people home and the marriages are not successful.
I am not saying this to hurt any one's feeling. Ego or love for their ward, rather sharing what I know to help them. It does not affect me in any way, but as a Brahmin sharing is part of our dharma.
