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    Woes of Brahmin Widower


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    Brahmin widowers are having a tough time finding matches -widows or divorced.If they happen to have a child then they are doomed.

    No brahmin girl would like to bring up the child .

    Nor they would like to support mother/father of the widower.

    As it is brahmin girls are choosy about their mates.What is the way out for these widowers?

    I find other communities little more reasonable.

    Recently after looking for a match for a brahmin widower around 38years, found a well educated employed girl 30plus -divorced within a month of marriage-

    innocent divorcee who offered to marry him and accept his child and mother.

    Do brahmin girls accept the new realities of changed society and stop setting wild terms for a life time relationship?

    Brahmin boys are increasingly looking to other communities for matches.

    They are far more liberal and open minded.

    I have started feeling that being a boy with brahmin tag is an albatros around his neck .

    Similarly another brahmin boy -son of a friend ended up with a broken engagement with a brahmin girl

    .A NB girl an old classmate of the boy very well off simply married him.

    All these come as a relief for brahmin boys/men who are seeing the patriarchal order getting crumbled around them and these mummy's boys are stuck without

    matches.

    We have to thank a social reformer who changed the order in tamilnadu and new age feminists who find brahmin girls as dedicated followers.

    Brahmin males have to think of foreign countries where caste tags do not matter much.There is no future for them in tamilnadu
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    Dear Krish Sir,

    One more thread in the topic that fascinates you for ever!!

    Many Brahmin guys are married to NB girls and live

    happily in Tamil Nadu. So, don't worry; be happy!!
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    Dear RajiRam ji

    I had been looking for a suitable brahmin match for this widower with child who lost his wife to blood cancer a few years back and is a relative.

    Now I am happy that a NB girl -a well educated {PhD} girl has accepted to marry him.Both are delhi based.

    In metros the caste divide is not that critical . I feel That Education and ability to adjust to each others likes and dislikes matter far more than caste.

    It took me more than couple of years to find a match for this widower.
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    Dear Krish Sir,

    As far as I have seen, weddings happen ONLY when the right time comes; be it first or second innings!

    மாறன் கணை தொடுக்கும் வேளை, கிடைக்கும் கல்யாண மாலை !!
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    Quote Originally Posted by krish44 View Post
    Dear RajiRam ji

    I had been looking for a suitable brahmin match for this widower with child who lost his wife to blood cancer a few years back and is a relative.

    Now I am happy that a NB girl -a well educated {PhD} girl has accepted to marry him.Both are delhi based.

    In metros the caste divide is not that critical . I feel That Education and ability to adjust to each others likes and dislikes matter far more than caste.

    It took me more than couple of years to find a match for this widower.
    Since caste is still in existence, what will be the caste of the couple in cases where the boy is Brahmin and the girl is NB?
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    Vanakkam,

    I do think incompatibilities issues towards the spouse, "allergy" to the in-laws, avoiding widower with kids, these traits can be seen in some women, regardless caste and ethnicity. In fact these so-called traits are avoided by some men too, if they happen to be widower and look for spouses.

    Seeing the failures of marriages these days, I think, couples should know what they are going into and the commitments required before they even marry. In those days, divorces are are indeed a rarity, even if there were issues, somehow life went on with little tweaks here and there. People give up easily these days!
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    hi

    now a days..divorces are becoming normal...widow/widower can be a nice live in partners....only problem with children...

    second marriages always have some emotional problem with kids...
    asato maa sadh gamayaa, tamaso maa jyotir
    gamayaa, mrityor maa amritham gamayaaa..
    om shanti, om shanti, om shanti...upanishad
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    Educated girls with good jobs do not come alone .They have a way of thrusting her parents on the spouse.So better see if you are compatible with mother in law first if you

    love the girl .

    Brahmin girls are frank.They say clearly that they will not put up with children of widower if he has any and mother of the boy if she is a widow depending on son.

    Other communities accept the widower with child and widowed mother and after marriage indicate that they will not be responsible for either child of widower or his mother.

    So take your pick.

    All youngsters think they have only one life to live.They would not like to be burdened with issues facing the widower.

    One tends to think that it is no longer worth getting married and most hate the word commitment.

    Society should accept singles as they are and not treat them like lepers.

    Singles do less damage to society than incompatible married types.
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    Quote Originally Posted by krish44 View Post
    Educated girls with good jobs do not come alone .They have a way of thrusting her parents on the spouse.So better see if you are compatible with mother in law first if you

    love the girl .

    Brahmin girls are frank.They say clearly that they will not put up with children of widower if he has any and mother of the boy if she is a widow depending on son.

    Other communities accept the widower with child and widowed mother and after marriage indicate that they will not be responsible for either child of widower or his mother.

    So take your pick.

    All youngsters think they have only one life to live.They would not like to be burdened with issues facing the widower.

    One tends to think that it is no longer worth getting married and most hate the word commitment.

    Society should accept singles as they are and not treat them like lepers.

    Singles do less damage to society than incompatible married types.
    Brahmin girls are very emotional and sensitive and expect lot of affection from parents.

    If your statement that Brahmin girls are frank and have reservations, then, Brahmin boys should look out for girls from other communities and start creating a new Brahmin community.
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    The new community will be technically Brahmins with OTHER caste characteristics!!

    There is one C n P material in another thread, to support this statement!
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