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Gender constructs: the lock and the key

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prasad1

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566038-gender2.jpg[FONT=&quot]n the same way that these devices perform fixed roles, men and women are also trapped in attributes that oppress them
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Once up a time, there was a man who possessed a lock and a key. The man was so obsessed with the key’s ability to unlock the lock, that he praised the key for his successes and accused it for his failures. So, you and I have a tale to hear about this mysterious man who had dropped the unbreakable key and reliant lock amid us ages ago and which continues to exist in our midst. Since then, the world went through massive evolution and so did the lock and key. Yet the key’s burden of unbreakability and the lock’s burden of reliability remains unchanged. The lock always gets the empathy but what about the burdened key?

Borrowing Simone de Beauvoir’s opinion from the book The Second Sex, “One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman”. Similarly, one is not born, but rather becomes, a man. Hence, masculinity is not a virtue but a construct. It has always been about her plight but what about his endurance? Be it laws, society, the entertainment industry, fashion, family, and even friends for that matter, everyone ignores ‘his’ melancholy.

What per cent of innocent men win a case of alleged gender abuse? Does a dwarf, or a fat, or delicate man hold marriage prospects in our society? Hasn’t a brother always been ridiculed for using his sister’s “ladkiyon wali cream”? Why aren’t there any high-heeled shoes for men? Why can’t he wear pink? Why does every Farhan Qureshi (R Madhavan’s character in Three Idiots) have to leave photography because of family pressure to pursue engineering? Is it because he is the ultimate breadwinner? Maybe it wasn’t enough that even his friends contribute to the plight. Because according to them, he cannot cry like a little girl but has to be a hero. And if he fails, “kya usne chudiya pehenli hai?” We have burdened her with femininity, but haven’t we burdened him with hyper-masculinity too?

“Innocent until proven guilty” our law believes, but people don’t. The list of expectations of the girls’ family regarding the groom is never ending. Not to forget, his duties of lifting buaji’s and taiji’s suitcases, removing the ghee ka dibba from the top shelf, and because he is a driver by birth, he has to park the vehicle inside every night. While the girlfriend has the privilege of shopping, he has the privilege of holding her bags. He should be gentle enough to pay all her bills, open the doors, and pull out the chairs for her. And therefore, he remains unconditionally and conventionally masculine.



http://www.dnaindia.com/analysis/column-gender-constructs-the-lock-and-the-key-2403379
 
See what all colors men wear. Source: Google images.

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Poor things! Let them have at least these! :)

Because, it does NOT end with taking the Ghee tin from the shelf! :nono:

He has to cut veg, make coffee, toast bread, do laundry and if efficient enough, do the entire cooking too!

Girls have become very smart. :thumb:

 
See the picture again. The girl driving does not have the helmet, the male riding behind has the helmet. LOL
 
See the picture again. The girl driving does not have the helmet, the male riding behind has the helmet. LOL
No female can drive fast when a ranting (??) male sits behind her!

I think, she might have requested him to wear a helmet, NOT for safety but to save her ears!! :D
 
Duct tape?? :lol:

Now some enlightenment:

Duct tape was originally named “Duck” tape and originally only came in green, not silver.

Duct tape was originally invented by Johnson & Johnson’s Permacel division during WWII for the military.

The military specifically needed a waterproof tape that could be used to keep moisture out of ammunition cases.

This is why the originally Duct tape came only in army green.
Source: Duct Tape was Originally Named “Duck” Tape and Came in Green
 
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