It is very interesting to read some of the posts. I don't know how many of the posters are in a marriage that has spouses from two different casts. I am one. I can definitely say that all the gloom and doom predicted here are baseless. As I have stated in another thread I am an Iyer by birth and am married to a Roman Catholic. I have been married for more than 30 years. Neither of us have lost our identity. We both maintain our culture. Respect each other's religion, culture and willingly participate in activities. We have taught our children to be good human beings, treat every other human being as equal. We have taught them to be open minded and they haven't done too badly. They know carnatic music, western music, understand the two philosophies and are the richer for it. They celebrate both religions.
In tamil there is a proverb "அருண்டவன் கண்ணுக்கு இருண்டதெல்லாம் பேய்"
All this hooplah about losing one's identity is all rubbish. I believe it comes out of fear of the unknown. If you have absolute belief in something, learning a new thing or getting exposed to a new thing is not going to weaken your position. If the fear is there then it means the foundation is very weak. I think people who fear intercaste marriages should do something about strengthening their foundation rather than fearing progress.
We should remember all human beings are the same. Religion/Caste etc are man made and humans can change this. If as one poster had predicted that all castes would vanish then it is a good thing. People would stop killing each other in the name of religion and start working towards the betterment of humanity.
I think everyone should follow the sayings "எம்மதமும் சம்மதமே", "யாதும் ஊரே யாவரும் கேளீர்"
My two cents worth
K. Kumar