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    Marriage Delays

    What are the reasons in horoscope for the marriage getting delayed? Bcoz, everyone seeing my horoscope, said no doshams, but still marriage getting delayed.
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    1. no one in family/relatives to help
    2. this happening to me too

    3.too smart get themselves look for girl and get married soon
    4.when we/one gives others way--we/one get delayed
    this is the process of selfishness
    5. highly irresponsible family--they live for themselves

    PROBABLE SOLUTION
    1. make many friends and relatives[helpful nature]
    2.this happens in --TAMIL BRAHMINS--who are too intelligent for themselves and not --so helpful for others in family
    whereas in case of --Business family--family is helpful --whatsoever be the --horoscope-
    they hardly have problem --like someone --not getting married in their family

    Thanks

    Siva
    Last edited by siva144; 19-06-2009 at 11:05 AM.
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    Delay in marriage

    I have a different opinion on the subject. I have a decent knowledge in astrology and have given solutions to many. When they come and ask why the delay or has guru palan has come , i used to tell them that guru palan is only your interest in celebrating the marrige and nothing special.

    The guru takes 12 years to go one cycle and every alternate house is a benefit point for marriage. Moreover, the guru standing in one house also make a forward motion for 4 months and returns the same position and with the end of the year makes a permanent move to the next house. In the new house, guru stays for 4 months and makes a forward to athe next house and so on. i used to tell it is just like govt officer who takes an additional charges for some time and gets posted to the new post permanently. Thus guru stays in a house only for 4 months and keeps adjusting with the next house. In this where is guru palan. The girl should get married before 12 years, 24 years and they come ask at 28 years when the guru palan comes.

    The more the delay , only mind set should make headway and not horoscope.Many people will become expert in finding fault of the horoscopes recd to reject- sometimes they have mastered phd done in rejecting the horoscope.They simply put the blame on horoscope. Horoscopes give guidance to 10 to 20 % only. If ones horoscope suggests that the marriage of average nature and less matching rules, why ask for 10 poruththams? just saying no less than 10 poruththams means one will not get married in this life when his horoscope is just the otherway.

    Many people have become addict to horoscope and wrong principles and blame themselves and others. Be open minded and get rid of horoscope addiction.When you disassociate with horoscope your marriages will get setled immediately.
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    very good answers by chims and siva. particularly the last para of chims, and the entire analysis of siva.

    ajay,

    i think, it is best that you know what you want. then take the matters into your own hands and go about doing it to get the results.

    to put your life goals and dreams, into anyone else's hands, out of trust, for a limited time is OK. but if you are not getting the results that you seek, then i think, the right thing to do, is to take the initiative and work to setting things right.

    have you advertised in shadi.com, tamil matrimony and similar websites. may i suggest, that you do and in order to get the maximum response, keep your expections ('demands') minimal.

    the more parameters that you elicit for poruthams, the less the chances of finding a mate.

    i guess it is a mate that you want. also, please consider going outside the tamil brahmin fold - iyengars, other tamil groups, other brahmins.. whatever maybe your level of comfort.

    remember, that a tamil brahmin girl, does not necessarily guarantee happiness. or a familiarity with our way of life. if you marry outside the group, you can teach them. we do need converts, to increase our declining numbers. there is no better one who will try to familarize with our customs, than a newly inducted brahmin.

    ajay, please understand, that what you are experiencing is the result of social attitude changes in our community past 50 years.
    listing them below:

    - small families and hence a smaller pool of candidates
    - female education and hence increased money power for the girls
    - female emancipation of ideas ie they are as good as the males
    - as a result of above 2, net result is smarter females who have no appetite for chopLangi guys still tied to their mother's sari strings
    - ancient attitudes by boys' parents - ie expecting all marriage expenses be borne by girls' parents. why not offer to foot half the bill?
    - many of our girls being wooed and marrying outside of our community, which i think, our boys do not appear to catch on and hence left behind
    - unbalanced sex ratio of more boys vs girls

    ajay, do not lose heart. carpe diem and best of luck.

    thank you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by srinivas_ajay View Post
    What are the reasons in horoscope for the marriage getting delayed? Bcoz, everyone seeing my horoscope, said no doshams, but still marriage getting delayed.
    Hello,
    Delay for marriage due to the star positionedin your horoscope. one should look the 7th house, the star palced in the 7th house, the other stars views on the 7th house, lagna, 2nd, 8th, amshakam. gochara, venus,rahu placement etc. give your date of birth, place of birth and time of birth, i can help you to forcast your marriage time.
    shankar krishna
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    dob--14 april,1962
    time 10.10 --Chennai
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    hi siva
    time 10.10 AM or PM ?
    send birth in the morning or night. if you born in morning your star will be ayilyam and if it is at night 10.10 your star is makham.
    shankarkrishna

    Quote Originally Posted by siva144 View Post
    dob--14 april,1962
    time 10.10 --Chennai
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    sorry--it is 10.10 am
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    DOB 25June1976, place of birth madurai, tob: 6:42 pm (Rohini) can u send ur email to my private inbox
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    I think the primary reason for marriage delays especially in brahmin community is the high expectations from both sides. We must try to have a realistic estimate of our economic situation and then look for a suitable partner with similar background. In my opinion, the delays are predominantly due to mismatches.
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